Ranting on...

After my July 17th experience with my wife, I’ve learned that women are not all that high on teaching The bad (but necessary) steps to teach my son to sleep on his own.
I had the same experience this week, while ridding my son of the pacifiers.
I spoke with a buddy of mine over IM. And while I was telling him how I felt; I though that this "rant" was perfect to post it here. So, for your entertainment, to judge and to think about it...

See below the IM's and enjoy (names were removed for obvious reasons)

Buddy: ata boy man!
Buddy: dude take all the control away from the wife
ME: I do. that's why my son improves.
ME: But she gets me so pissed sometimes, man
Buddy: i feel for you
Buddy: why does she fight you on everything?
ME: it is frustrating to have to endure you kid crying, but i remind myself that it is for the best for him. Then comes the wife and starts saying I just like to make rules, and there's no need to make the baby cry. It's like I do this things because I like to see him suffer.
Buddy: tell the wife that the world is full of disappointments...you don't always get what you want
ME: it fucking pisses me off. Not just I have to endure my son suffering, but also her veiled criticism
Buddy: My wife is the same
Buddy: she is a weak parent man
ME: but that is utterly Bullshit. He will never get rid of the pacifier nor sleep on his own if he is not put to it. And why would him? That was the only way he knew of...
Buddy: right
Buddy: dude
Buddy: My son ain't your friend
Buddy: he is your son....your responsibility
ME: and the funny thing is that he took it like a man, did not cry nor complain. Nowadays he does not care about it anymore.
ME: I think is that my wife looks at the easy way out. The convenient mode...like to give him a pacifier when he cries to soothe him. Rather than help him get rid of it...
Buddy: right. Why work at it?
ME: exactly. Like when he misbehaves. She screams at him to stop. I was like... you need more patience with him. First of all, he does not understand the scream. Second, most of the times he can't even connect the bad behaviour to be the reason you scream. And mostly, he was just playing like he always does. He does not know that now mommy has a bad mood and does not want him to play.
Buddy: right
Buddy: no idea how you don't lose it on her
Buddy: I’m mad for you

ME: and then they look at us as being the immature ones...
ME: I think that we are in fact more immature. We still play games in computer, Xbox, etc. We do read comics and peak at some porn sometimes, etc.
ME: But when it comes to REAL responsibility like working and paying bills, or teaching our kids, I think we are the ones who take a stand... they just go with the motion of how it is most convenient for them..."one day they will learn".
Buddy: right
Buddy: dude i know this
ME: I think sometime I will do a rant post. Put it in my blog
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Note: I apologize if it sounds sexist. I take that there are couples that the roles are reversed... however on my case (and his); it seems I am the discipliner; she is just trying to enjoy the ride...

New milestone.

So, my son used pacifiers. Mostly to sleep.
He’s been hooked up to it since he was out of the womb!!! Actually all 3 ultrasounds we did, always showed him sucking his thumb.

Well, not anymore.

This last Friday, I asked the wife what she thought of it.
In 2 weeks we will have a new baby. And I thought this would be the last/best opportunity to get rid of it before the new baby is born.
The reason I thought time was perfect, was because this would be the last weekend we would have before things started changing – and fast.
Next weekend will be our last weekend without my mother-in-law (aka the devil).
We will be very busy finishing preparing the house in order to accommodate both babies (adding new cribs, washing newborn clothes, preparing for the hospital, etc), and also we would need as much rest as we can get, so we would rather it not endure 3 nights of hell (until he would get used to be without his pacifier) that close to the birth date.
It is also good to give some time for Kevin to forget about pacifiers, so he wouldn’t steal them from the newborn. :)

I told my wife on Friday night we could use the weekend as the days to try and set this up (friends told me it tkes about 3 days for the baby to forget about the pacifier). This way, even if he would not sleep, we could stay in bed until later those days and recover from a terrible night.
Of course, as the team player my wife is, she did not agree to start on Friday night. So we agreed to put only 1 pacifier in his crib (he usually has 3) and if he looses it or it falls, he would be on his own.
Saturday comes, and I put him to sleep his after-lunch nap without the pacifier. Now the fun thing is: He was not that tired. So, of course, he was not falling asleep right away. What does my wife do? Shows him the pacifier.
I was fucking pissed. I tell her to put it away, she starts telling me “I don’t see the point of…” I cut her right out with “The same point you did not see of letting him cry to learn how to sleep on his own??”. Now she is mad and she leaves the living room.
Comes night time, and I bathe him and put him to sleep (no pacifier). He does not cry at all (he did take a longer time to sleep, as he was half expecting me to give him his pacifier to sleep). I just waited until he was sleepy and put him in the crib). He looked for the pacifier, but didn't have energy to cry about not finding one.
Same for Sunday. I put him to sleep his nap time without it. No cry.
My wife finally gave in and put him to sleep without the pacifier on Sunday Night.

It is funny as only NOW she gets why it is better for him to not be hooked on pacifier.
And as usual, I have to endure not just the step ahead, but also a criticism of her that I just like to see my son suffer for no good reason (she never sees the point of those changes until after the change is done).

No matter what, I am damn proud of my son for taking the change like a man!!! :)

Since when did the world become such a Pussy ??

This is becoming fucking ridiculous.
First this Mohammed cartoon thing.
So no one can post his cartoons because all Arab world becomes angry. That gives them the right to attack embassies around the world, make protests and the world, instead of replying "SHUT THE FUCK UP!" to them, no. they just shut up.

Then the Pope quotes something that portraits Islam with a bad light, and we watch again the Islam countries demand the pope to ask for forgiveness.
People threat the pope's life, but that is also acceptable.

And now, the world watches quietly while Iran gives prices for the best Holocaust cartoon prize.

You know what? Apart from the fact that the Holocaust is supposed to be something so big that it is just bad taste to make jokes about, Islam is just proving they can do whatever THEY want, while anything that they don't like can be retaliated by force, death threats and ridiculous demands of apologies by the same Islam leaders who say Holocaust charges are just an exercise of freedom of speech!

Since when did the world become such a Pussy for Islam???
Until when will we fucking allow any stupid extremists to do or say whatever they want, while we have to measure our words, afraid it might set them off?

I have respect for people of Islam. The ones with a head over their shoulders, the ones who thought me that Islam pledges love. The ones who are also unhappy when a stupid airhead kills himself in the name of whoever brainwashed him into believe that by committing the act of MURDER he will be awarded a reward. The ones who sadly see their fate being used (and abused) by those extremists as an excuse for every despicable hate act they commit.

I have No fucking respect to THOSE people.

So, with all due respect I have for my good Islamic friends, they will understand I don't speak to them when I say this: "FUCK YOU FAKE-ISLAMISTS!"